Suzanne Norman

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How to reach your goals

Wednesday, January 01, 2020

 

I remember about 8 years ago, early morning on the first day of the new year, reflecting on the year that just past. I realized, with a mixture of sadness and frustration that I had set intentions the year before - big intentions for my business, relationships, and health - and here I sat 365 days later in the exact same place I was a year before. Feeling the same longings, feeling the same discontent. I was no different, and my life was no different.

 

I realized at that moment how useless vision boarding was, how powerless positive affirmations are, and how willpower alone, even when fueled by a deep desire for change, just isn't enough.

 

Every year we intend to wipe the slate clean and take charge of our future, to commit to change and growth. We really want to reach our goals, to achieve great things, to make a difference and live a life of purpose and passion. We really long to break free of bad habits and unhealthy patterns.

 

And we start off with enthusiasm and we may even begin to gain traction. Then before we know it, we're back in the old habits, doing the same things and feeling the same feelings. It's frustrating to keep reaching for our goals only to revert back to those old conditioned habits and behaviors.

 

And then I realized something very powerful.  It's not that our desires aren't deep enough or strong enough, that we don't want them enough. It's not that we don't deserve what we want, there isn't some old karma that is working through our life and now we're being punished (that's not how karma works).   It has nothing to do with "not being in our cards" to have what we desire.  Just because I was born into this situation or circumstance does not mean I have to repeat it or stay in it... I most certainly have the power to rise above it.

We are doing everything right.  We are listening to the longings we feel,  we are honoring the voice of higher awareness that tells us we deserve the dreams in our heart.  We are stating our intentions to the higher powers of creative energy and we are making it very clear that we desire the change that is yearning to take place.  We have been told that in order to change our personal reality, we must change our thinking.  We have been told that we can manifest whatever we want if we just think it and visualize it happening.

As I sat there that morning, 8 years ago, frustrated and doubting what I had so strongly wanted to believe, wanting to believe all of the spiritual texts I had studied for over a decade, and wanting to believe in the law of manifestation and abundance, a powerful realization occurred to me.  I realized that we were doing it all wrong.

You see, about that same time, I was stepping into an obsession that continues today... the field of neuroscience.  I had already been working with the deeper states of consciousness with my work in hypnotherapy, but the latest insights from neuroscience were giving deeper understandings into the mind, thought, and the brain.  

And what was crystal clear to me at that moment was that change, real change, had to happen at the deeper levels of consciousness.  If we try and create change by changing our conscious thoughts then we would be doomed to revert back to the familiar ways of thinking and behaving.  

The truth is that only a fraction of our thoughts are generated by the conscious mind. The more powerful mind, and the part of the mind that controls your habits and behaviors is the subconscious mind.  The subconscious mind is the mind that was programmed early in your life to believe certain things about yourself, what you deserve, and what you can and can't do.  And your beliefs, habits, and behaviors will be generated by that programming regardless of how much you want something consciously - until the programming is changed.

Just like the computer on your desk.  Unless you update the programming, it will run on outdated programming.  

If you desire a loving relationship but your programming has you believe you aren't worthy of love, then your subconscious mind and it's programming will allow only what it knows.  Your conscious mind cannot override the programming.

That's why our goals and dreams are oftentimes never met.  We long for change and attempt to will our way toward it with our conscious efforts, but the subconscious programming simply won't accept the request.  It hasn't had the new programming downloaded.

That epiphany launched an experiment with my own life.  I spent the next year working on updating my programming - the programming of my subconscious mind.  As I programmed the desires and goals I had written down for myself into my deeper consciousness as if they were what I already knew to be true, and as if I absolutely deserved them, they started to manifest.

As my mind began to believe that what I wanted was possible, then, and only then, did my thoughts change.  And when thoughts change, reality will indeed change.  But only thoughts that come from a deep belief, and belief is the realm of the subconscious mind.

So, if your desires, goals, and dreams are not manifesting, that's not a sign to give up.  It's an indication that your deeply held beliefs about having that dream aren't congruent with your conscious desires.  

You must first change at a deeper level of consciousness.

And so I spent the next 6 years creating a system for transformation based upon that experiment with myself.  And I call it LifeDesign.

The underlying principle of LifeDesign is that what is within you is greater than any circumstance in your life.  And for the past few years, this program has helped hundreds of people move from being stuck and unfulfilled to living a life of freedom and success.

If you'd like to know more about it, check it out  here

I began by coaching people privately, which I still do.   But I wanted to make it more affordable and be able to reach more people than one-on-one coaching allows me.  And I am happy to announce the launch of my online version of the LifeDesign coaching program. 

This online version allows you to work through the program at your own pace and make your own schedule, but it still provides for deep and powerful change.   I am so excited about this program and this online coaching format...  

 

please check it out and let me know what you think!!   I want you to live the life you dream of, and I want 2020 to be your year of transformation.

As always, I am grateful to you

 

Dreams + Goals + Action = New Life

Wednesday, January 01, 2020

 

WHO DO YOU WANT TO BE IN 2020?

Many people put their dreams on the back burner on an ongoing basis.

They put the needs of others before their own, or keep telling themselves that "someday" they'll dust off their dreams and begin transforming their reality.

Make 2020 the year you focus on your dreams!

Taking care of our responsibilities and caring for others is important, it's also important to invest time in exploring and pursuing what makes YOU feel happy....

Because, when YOU are living the life of your dreams, the JOY and ALIVENESS you feel elevates those around you... and as you inspire others to pursue their dreams, the entire world changes for the better.

Each year many of us take time to reflect and commit to some change or growth in the coming year. Perhaps you do as well. We resolve to finally reach a goal or make a change that we've been thinking about all year or, as often happens, we set the same goal as the one we set the previous year and say "This time, I'm going to do it!"

But for many of us, as we take time to consider what it is we would like to change, or what it is we would like to try, have, do, or become....we begin to realize that we are not at all sure what the dreams of our heart are. We've never really defined the longings and discontents we feel. We just know we want something different.

You see, life is always seeking growth. Your life is always seeking a freer, fuller, more expanded version of what you've known...it's a natural process.

But when we ignore that pull to grow, we feel unsettled and stuck and we just continue to live the life we've known. We call that living by default.

However, you are a powerful co-creator of your reality and you have the power to create a greater life, filled with more joy, more purpose, prosperity, and freedom. That is called living your life by design. You truly do have the power to create and manifest the dreams of your heart.

The first step is getting clear about what you want. If you don't know what you want, you will never find the path to greater freedom, passion, and purpose? As they say, no wind is favorable to a sailor with no destination. Your creative powers mean little if you don't know how to direct them.

For the past decade, I have been helping my clients get crystal clear on the dreams in their hearts, and then help them to remove the mental blocks that are keeping them from achieving those dreams.

I have created a powerful and proven system for defining, designing, and then building your dream life. I'd love to introduce you to LifeDesign.

by the end of 2020, you could be living the life of your dreams

Or, you could be living the same life that you're living now. The choice is yours.

It has been my passion and purpose to help you tap into your true power. Check it out here

Tap into your creative powers and design your dream life.  Check it out here!

To your dreams
Suzanne

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